longdistancestories said something rather profound just now:

‘Would you rather have them 20,000 km away, or not have them at all?’

Obviously that was about a specific couple/distance but it applies with all relationships in general.

Like, would you rather be as you are without them or go through something tough but be able to call them yours?

I need to think more like this, cause it helps.

Something I literally don’t understand, especially for people looking for something serious or long-term

“Would you date someone who looked like that?”

I’m not saying that I don’t take looks into consideration at all, because I do, but to be with someone long-term who you want to spend a large portion or your life with…I don’t understand why looks would be a primary factor.

It’s not like I date someone to show them off to people, I date someone to be really happy with them. Will someone’s looks end up making me feel unhappy? Doubtful. Unless they get bullied, I’ll be sad for that, but it wouldn’t make me love them any less.

I do like to show people who I’m dating though, but it’s usually because I’m friggin proud of them as a person, not to go ‘omg they are so hot, look, they’re so hot, right??’ but to go ‘I am so grateful to have this person in my life, I love them.’

“Are you attracted to someone who looks like that?” is a different question altogether if I have no idea who they are.

Being friends with your ex.

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tulipstoparasites:

To me, if an ex is able to stay friends with you after a breakup, it tells you that when you guys were together, they actually liked you for you, and that being with you was just a way to get to know you better. They’re a keeper if they can look past the awkwardness of the fact you guys had a thing, and be friends just like before.

Do want

Aw yeah! Love being mates with exes.

(Source: hurricanehillary)

Resolution: Stop calling my friends who I used to date ‘exes’ unless our relationship is relevant to the conversation

The fact that they’re my friend matters a lot more than the fact that we used to be together.

Plus, I don’t like the idea of calling someone an ex unless we weren’t mates before and aren’t mates anymore, it makes them seem like old goods that have exhausted their primary function.

Things I need to remember about people I like. I’ve done all of these at least once before, some more recent than others

Do NOT ask them if they still like you.

They chose you, so don’t assume stupid things.

This means try not be paranoid, please.

Don’t ask them if you’re annoying.

Don’t assume you’re being weird and horrible, you more than likely aren’t.

You’re not terribly ugly, have more confidence.

Don’t be clingy.

Don’t go on about them all the time and annoy people or them.

They have a life too, it isn’t all about you.

This means don’t assume they wanna do everything you do too.

Put yourself in their shoes more.

So, if you’re both not talking very much for e.g. let them know you still care or they might think you don’t give a shit.

Don’t hold back in your feelings unless it’s blatantly annoying, stupid, or bothersome.

Don’t play ‘hard to get’, show them how you really feel.

Do NOT say everything that pops into your head, hold some of that weird shit back.

Don’t talk about things loads that they don’t care about.

Basically, don’t be annoying, just chill out and enjoy what you have.

My favourite relationships on here:

Emily and Evey & Kelly and Kevin :)

…..And me and Anthony, but that doesn’t reeeeally count.

Kinda @ Jessica, kinda for everyone too

My last ex I went out with when I was pretty new to not eating meat and he was a twat about it and said I was stupid. I only stayed with him cause he was a genuinly sweet guy otherwise, only had problems with him on that issue unfortunately. =/

The ex before that: I started dating literally maybe a week after I stopped eating meat and he was vegetarian before but stopped because he didn’t see the point anymore, but he was still nice to me about it as he had first-hand experience regarding vegetarianism. He liked travelling and was pretty in touch with nature. He was nice. :)

The guy I’m dating now is vegetarian and would like to be vegan if he didn’t think he’d get ill from it, which I think is fantastic. :D He said he’d like to be vegan a little bit to help me but not go total vegan, and him saying that made me really happy. =’] He’s also eaten some vegan food with me and said he really likes it.

So apparently, on average, passionate kisses/make-outs stop happening about 2 years into a relationship and are replaced with pecks on the lips

Is this true/opinions?

I’m being more serious about people I want to be with now

Careful…not rushing things…treating it like a glass cup that’ll break if I move too fast or if I’m not careful.

I want it to work so I’ll do this.

I won’t give up if I assume he’s not into me either unless it’s blatant as hell. My assumptions are usually wrong.

Maturity vs. Dating

When I was tiny, boys were disgusting.

When I got a bit older, they were attractive.

A few years later I decided who I wanted to date based on how ‘cute’ they were.

Even later in my life, I would go out with people without befriending them first.

NOW I love the stage I am at. Obviously physical attraction plays a big role if you just set eyes on a hot person without knowing what their personality is like, but now, what’s most attractive is someone who clicks with me! When I decide to date someone, it has to be because we have a spark, something special; they can’t just be attractive anymore.

If someone gets me, is caring/nice, has things in common with me, shares my music taste, is funny AND happens to be attractive to look at, that’s a whole fucking package! 

Right now, I like someone who ticks all of those boxes…ALL of them! AND he rides a motorbike while being a year and a bit older. Come on….fuck yes!

We get on, he cares [sometimes a bit too much, bless ‘im] about me, we both really like Pendulum and The Prodigy, he has a lip piercing too [actually he has 2], we can be immature as hell and he makes me laugh a lot, and he’s attractive. I don’t want to be over-thinking things but with a bit of work, I think I could get him.

We’ve not met yet and he said he really likes me but he wants to get to know me properly, talk and stuff, find things out about me before we meet. He’d like to meet now but he’d prefer to talk to me more. :) He also said he happened to be thinking about me when I emailed him yesterday and that he missed talking to me because his MSN’s being a dick.

Note to future self if I fail:

It’s ok, there’ll be someone else, don’t dwell on it, yeah?

Know what? Go to London, have a few drinks, PARTY!! or go to a gig, those always cheer you up!!

You’d better not be crying, I’m serious, you’re old enough to grow some balls, so grow some ba— not literally, that’s…that’s not nice.

Go on youtube, Shane Dawson, crabstickz, nerimon, communitychannel….watch them! Oh oh and play some kick ass music really loud and listen with earphones. Not sad songs though. Juniorsenior - Move Your Feet, that’s a good one. You’re fine, I promise.

I took a break from relationships since last summer but now I think I’m ready for one again, and I mean a proper one.

I’ve not had a relationship last more than 4 months before, I want to at least make a year, that would be excellent right now.

I might lose interest in him or moved on in a month or I could still be into him in a big way, I really don’t know, but right now, I want him; he ticks all of the boxes.